If you’re a student you understand that winter is coming. But not in the bad ass GOT way, rather in the form of exams, deadlines and unhealthy junk food binges.
This is my fourth and final year so ‘finals fatigue’ is settling in like a cat in a box. Except I’m the cat and let’s just say my owner is Schrodinger. Either way I’m fucked.
Anyways, in lieu of prepping the final draft of my submission for tomorrow, I went to lunch. Not just any lunch, but a much too extravagant 3 hour lunch that cost more money than I should be spending
mind you. It was the best decision I’ve made in a while. I had food that would make food bloggers weep tears of joy at the thoughts of the followers they’d rake in on their Instagram accounts. I’ll leave it to your imagination to ponder the delight I experienced as I ate a perfectly cooked Chilli Chocolate fondant with a liquorice coulis accompanied by a bergamot gelato. Even better, I was greeted by a beautiful sunset as I walked back to the library.
Moral of the story: if you’ve got the time to be a little selfish then do just that. It’s amazing how fulfilling it is, to kill time knowing full well you’ve got shit to do.
As most people do, sometimes I feel insignificant and like my life is out of my control.
During a quiet moment, a friend and I sat down to share a bag of crisps. As I watched her just about finish the bag, I got the sinking feeling that my presence could so easily be done without.
Something so small tapped into my feelings about how fickle life can be and how there will always be something new. I took the time to explore these feelings of isolation and irrelevance and found it hugely cathartic to write. Below is a poem I wrote that I wrote to myself as a sign of self compassion.
Brown and brittle.
Golden amber sheaths cascade from the waning crown.
Inviting the passers by to stop, exhale and whisper longingly, fall.
Fall further below the facade,
To the old leaves.
That turn to mush under the weight of gilded new comers.
The blissful ambers only good for quick reapings until the grim rolls in,
The almost saplings are soon to be trounced upon.
Or covered by falling snow that erases them clean to blank slate.
But the solitary brown leaf has been carried away.
Swept up by the wind and twirled majestically in a gust of fake flying.
Only to be discarded un-cerimoniously.
Out of the way.
As golden amber, descends.
I am a fallen leaf.
Brown, brittle, broken.
Et Voila! Another weekly round up of entertaining things to do this week. Check it out and keep yourself busy.
Film: Get off your ass and go see Get Out. Jordan Peele’s social thriller is one to watch. Not only is it funny at times, but the film’s mirroring of the black experience in modern society makes for a wonderfully eery, scary and thoughtful viewing experience. Out in theatres now.
TV: The CW’s Riverdale is a sight to bear. The cinematography of this series makes for a decadent visual treat. The story lines, though somewhat melodramatic and juvenile at times, are chockful of intrigue and magnetism. You should be able to find the latest episodes on your Netflix.
Music: John Mayer’s partially released The Search for Everything is tender, upbeat and bump worthy. Sway gently to ‘Love on the Weekend’ and weep bitterly when you learn that ‘Still Feel Like Your Man’ is about Katy Perry. Weep more when you listen to the song with lyrics. Either way, put these songs on and let them take you on a smooth and brooding ride.
Start with the somber ‘You’re Gonna Live Forever In Me’: https://youtu.be/08Ndzf5-HxI
New Discovery: In the search of a more comprehensive knowledge of skin care I stumbled upon the Gothamista channel on youtube. Hosted by the knowledgable Renee, the channel is filled with engaging, informative and comprehensive videos about what skin care products contain and what to look for. With tailor made videos for different skin types. Renee is sure to teach you something illuminating about your skin. Take control of your skin care and check it. Link below.
Gothamista channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC-X4BAoKxwGYIKrKfqk7yug
I like to keep healthy, kinda. But it’s hard finding an honestly fun workout when you have zero motivation like myself. So, I’m sharing the workouts that make me happy and keep me healthy and active.
1) Dance workouts are always fun and also challenging, as you need to work your co-ordination. For me, the line between a decent workout and a waste of energy is an engaging instructor. So I present to you, The Fitness Marshall! He posts hip hop cardio dance workouts to pop/RnB tunes.
Caleb, the host, is hilarious, fabulous and completely motivating. He posts dance tutorials to the latest songs so you’re almost guaranteed to be dancing to your favourite song of the moment. The fact that his videos are the length of a song means I get to tailor my playlist exactly to my taste, and don’t worry Caleb has warm ups and cool downs, for a totally comprehensive work out experience. For an extra challenge check out Fit Dance Life for Zumba tutorials to all the latest reggaeton and a few cool pop songs too! Link to the channels below.
The Fitness Marshall: https://www.youtube.com/user/TheFitnessMarshall
Fit Dance Life: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCFu2moE2kAMkd5TxfE6fTVg
2) Morning Workouts. So when I get busy I try and keep active in the morning, even if it’s for 12-20 minutes. I usually do a light cardio/stretching routine and it helps me feel energisised and ready to carpe the diem.
My favourite morning video is a low impact 7 minute video that I follow up with a 5 minute power stretching routine. On the mornings where I have a little bit more time, I’ll do any 10 minute yoga routine to round it out. Links below.
3) Aerobic class workouts. My first experiences of excercise were dancing along to Jane Fonda tapes with my mom, so to this day I appreciate rhythmic workouts, hence my no.1 suggestion. Recently I discovered a workout that I enjoyed so thoroughly I laughed the entire time. It brought me back to those workout tapes and had me working up a good sweat in the process. The step style workout involves walking on the spot at an increasing pace with some moves working your obliques and your core. I seriously encourage you to click the link before and experience this beauty for yourself.
I hope you give these fitness tips and tricks a try, and do make sure to let
me know what you think!
This week’s highlights are briefly summed up below. If you find yourself looking for something to check out, look no further, for I present to you a few good things to keep you entertained.
- Film: I suggest making a plan to go and see this year’s Best Picture, the insanely good Moonlight.
- TV: Netflix’s relatively new offering, You Me Her, offers a few good laughs and is entertaining binge fare.
- Music: Léon is a relatively new artist with at least half a dozen bump worthy tunes out.
- Online content: This article that calls for more inclusive feminism is relatively old, but is still so relevant considering the backlash to Emma Watson’s latest Vanity Fair shoot. Link here: http://www.xojane.com/issues/beyonce-feminism-vs-emma-watson-feminism
- New Discovery: I recently stumbled upon the YouTube channel, “The School of Life” and it has prompted some illuminating self evaluations. I suggest starting with their video on Self Compassion. Watch it here: https://youtu.be/-kfUE41-JFw
To start off March on a positive note, I figured I’d make a list of how to be more active. Here are my suggestions on how to be more productive and how to have a positive attitude while you’re doing it.
I’m sure you’ve heard a million times to think positive and good things will happen. I find that to be rather simplistic but I do believe it’s rooted in something truly valuable. It can be hard to feel confident in the outcomes of your positive mind-set, so I have a few suggestions on how to feel good and how to work towards your goals.
1. State your goals. To a person and with conviction. Hold yourself accountable for what you want. Don’t make the mistake of overstating yourself and find yourself scrambling to do the impossible. Instead, set a realistic goal and talk to someone about it, speak about it with conviction and enthusiasm so they know you value this plan or idea and allow this dialogue to motivate you.
2. Write something down. If your goal is to start exercising, make a list of exercises you might be interested in and start auditioning them. YouTube and the internet are full of videos so take a little time to watch various clips and then challenge yourself to get up and complete your goal within a set amount of days or weeks.
3. Start doing things you can do in a minute or less. If you want to stop procrastinating, this is a good way to start. Make a commitment to immediately do anything if it’ll take a minute or less of your time. Hold yourself accountable and reward yourself for your achievements.
These are three easy ways to move into a more positive space. Remember that I, a human on the internet, believe in your ability to affect change. Positivity and productivity will always make you feel accomplished. If all else fails fake it, until you make it.
P.S. here’s a great quote to remind you to love yourself.
“She was on a quest for love, so she replaced her windows with mirrors.”